Thursday, 5 October 2017

How I Know That Having Emotional Feelings Alone Is Not Love

What Experience Have Thought Me About Feelings and Love.

When I was much younger, I do not know what having emotional feelings is and I can't even remember having such feelings.

But a time comes in the life of every young and growing person when emotional feelings becomes so strong (age 12-20 or more depending)

At this stage, i was not an exception nor can anyone claim he is. At this stage one begins to notice changes in body parts.

Still in school, I knew many of my mates who mis-judged this feelings and thought it to be love they can express to the opposite sex. Some got into trouble.

I have seen the result of misplaced feelings of emotion so I was extremely careful to think that such feelings means real love.

I have come to know through the experiences of my mates that mere feelings alone does not represent true love.

I know that feelings is intergra part of love but love involves much more than mere feelings.

I love having such feelings too but I never acted on my feelings because I knew first handedly that love is of different types.

Do you want to know them too? I will teach you In another article, " Love, an emotional flip-flop"

Monday, 12 June 2017

The Crucible Of Love: What You Should Expect From My Site

The Crucible Of Love

Learn everything you can about love and relationship.

Ihegbu Samuel CEO

Get the workable advise on: how to chose a good mate, how to manage or even eliminate marrital problems, how to maintain a relationship.

How about learning how to identify a person with what Africans traditionally called "white blood"?

People with "white blood" are lovable. That is, they are loved by every one where ever they may go.

If you are a person with white blood, and you get married to a person with white blood, then the bond is likely to be more stronger.

So if you are thinking of how to get a good mate, first identify if you have white blood, then to your best interest marry a white blood person only.

But how do you know if you are a person with "white blood" let alone being able to identify it in another?

This and many more you will be learning here

Stick around, and introduce as many as you can to my site and lets make it a place for the best advise on love and relationship.

Monday, 5 June 2017

The Concious And The Unconcious Love Part II

Why Is The Affirmative Statement "I Cannot Stop Loving You" An Uncious Love?

Immagine asking your child to do something he feels is difficult for him to do and he reacted by strongly shaking his head and shoulder left and right in a violent motion.

But a few minutes latter he went and do what you asked him to do anyway but in a frouned face and lack of williness, inner joy and peace.

Can you say he did it willingly or he did it because he has no other obtions but what you asked him to do?

The latter is true.

That is how or what the statement 'I cannot stop loving you' is saying.

It indicates not a person who is conciously doing what he is doing or who will in future contiously with joy, happiness and peace of mind do what he should do.

It indicates a person who can stop loving you but rellutantly keep on keeping on because he has no other obtions. Now he/she is hooked, so he has to pretend he still loves you.

Such relationshios or marriages will not be enjoyable. There may always be strain, thorn and thistles in the cord.

The truth is that, many lovers, and spouse are wishing that if they had known they will not have married the person who is their mate today. Others wish that the relationship should end. But they cannot so they feel hooked
And that is where "I cannot stop loving you" statement comes in. It is now a must though the initial desire is no longer there.

My dear, you need not wait till this future time to come for you to know the person who will not stop loving you. Who, when tribulations in the flesh comes will not wish he/she didn't marry you.

That is why you must choose wisely. You must determined during the courtship period if this person is conciously showing you love or unconciously.

           A Stone Cold Fact

It is a stone cold fact that no matter how wise you choose, there is no perfect relationship and their will never be a perfect mate.

So there may always be a problem in a relationship and marriages which could even threaten to ripe appart your marriage or relationship. 

Wether you are conciously or unconciously loved by your mate, how can you prevent this from happening.

You can't prevent 'all' relationship or marrital problems from arising but the good news is that you can prevent 'all' arised problems from tearing your relationship or marriage appart.

What if I should teach you one prinsciple or a method or tool you can use to solve any problem that have and may arise in your love life, relationship and marriages?

Will you use the tool?

Did you know?

The same road or path relationship or marrital problems follows and crips in to destroy your relationship and marriages is still the same road you can take to drive it back?

This will be a topic for another book. You will find it trilling and one of a kind to read.

The Concious And The Unconcious Love

How To Identify The Concious And The Unconcious Love

Concious love is free from a hook which characterises unconcious love

Concious Love;

'I will not stop loving you'

Unconcious love;

'I cannot stop loving you'

Do you want to avoid the heartbreak that comes from failed relationships?

Do you want your marriage union to endure for as long as you and your mates lives?

Do you want to get married to a partner that will care, cherishes and never stop loving you?

That is what every one of us want. That being the case, we need to know a secret, this secret about the concious and unconcious love.

The type of love, concious or the unconcious your date have for you before you both get married determines what you could expect from your relationship.

Can you from the two sentence above determined what I meant by a concious and unconcious love?

How To know A Person Who Conciously Loves You

When a person says he/she truely loves you, that person should be fully concious i.e fully aware of your nature in relation to his.

Therefore, the statement "I will" is a concious statement that must be used which indicates that he or she is personally aware of your nature, and still loves you anyware, and do not love you simply because of a hook.

Simply put, it indicates that he/she is not struggling to love you, and that neither you nor anyone else have imposed the person to love you, it is at his/her own "will" he did.

In fact, the affirmative statement "I will not stop loving you" is a kind of prophesy to you from your mate to be and should help you peers into the future and know how he/she will treat you tomorrow when the going gets though.

To understand how true what am saying is, lets do a little practical.

Step 1. Repeat the statement "I will not stop  loving you" three times while conciously thinking about your spouse or that special person. While repeating the statement think and feel as if he/she is present.

Step 2. Now repeat the same proccess using "I cannot stop loving you" statement while also thinking about that person.

Which of the affirmation comfirm conciousness of a decision? Which one makes you feel as if you have made the right decision which you are not regreating? Which one tells you that you were (or are ) fully aware of that person's nature in relation to yours? Which one makes you feel that you are prophesying to your dear one? Finally, which one help you sense within you that you still truely love that person?

Step 3. Now get up  go tell (pick your phone now and call, if your mate isn't present) your mate any of the two affirmation you think answers the questions above.

From today on, take note if your spouse or mate to be conciously tells you or uses the  'I will not stop loving you' or 'I cannot stop loving you' affirmation when affirming his/her love for you.

If he/she at will uses the former, then congratulations. You may have found a mate who will truely love and cherish, who have conciously loves you tomorrow from today, before the tomorrow marrital tribulations comes, and yet he/she even at that time will not stop loving you.

It is not a hook but a choice which he/she has conciously made from beginning, and is prophesying it to you today through this concious prophetic affirmation "I will not stop loving you".

This comfirms to your mate that you are not hooked by a mere feelings which you "cannot" get over but that you are fully aware, concious of the love you have for him/her so that when the feelings fails, him/her being around you still will give you joy and peace.

Now why is the affirmative satement "I cannot stop loving you" an unconcious love?

Why is the affirmative statement "I cannot stop loving you" an unconcious love?

Friday, 2 June 2017

How To Be In Love: Illustrated

A Story Of What Being in Love Is

That which convinced Joy to be with a Sammy is what love is
His name is Sammy, and People refers him as urgly in face and pockect. I gues you don't need a prophet to know what that really means, right?

At the same time, there was this girl, her name is Joy. She is an epitome of beauty. So beautiful, with a desirable shape. In fact, she is considered as priceless by many men.

Unfortunatly, the young man stated to show interest in this young lady.


How can a beautiful girl like that ever want to have anything to do with an urgly and poor kind of guy?

You are right...

That was exactly how she thought.

But the guy really wished they could be if nothing but friends.

However, always against his wish, is the girl's fierce resistance at the thought, not even wanting to be identified with him at all.

What is wrong? She don't like him? Quite sure.

Could you believe that every effort proved abortive. Everything that was said and done to make Joy pick interest failed.

Then he gave up and that was is it.

What you may not have known is that showing 'interest in a person' is receiprocal' and the resulted receiprocasy may sometimes become involuntary.

What am trying to say by all this big grammers is this:

If you show genuine interest in some one, either of the opposite sex or same sex, even if that person at the mean time seems to have no interest on you, don't dare worry.

Interest is receprocal. He/she will one day respond to your interest shown either negatively or positively, even if you never know.

Back to the main story.

Something changed the girl's attitude toward the young man.

As she fiercely oppose this young man's interest in her, and as she wonders what give the guy the cuorage to show such interest, something was happening.

The more she wonders and dwells on "what gave him the courage, the less she realizes she have unknowingly been dwelling on the thought about the young man.

Then something she never imagined begin to happen.

She began noting some desirable qualities that this young man posses that none of those she deemed handsome or wealthy has.

Rememner, she was thinking on 'how-dare-this-guy-want-to-date-me', kind of negative and egotistic.

But Noting his personalities, made her even more curious and to peered more even more deeper. 

The more deeper, the more she notices other desirable personalities of this young man she loves. Then she hold on to it.

"the best way to truely love a person is to first love the characters, if you can't find yourself loving much of his/her characters, neither will you love him/her"

As time passes, those desirable qualities of his began to transcend her view of him. The distgust she once felt was melting off like a candle.

 Now she can't stop thinking about him. No. Not the former 'how-dare-him' kind of feelings. That have  since automatically been replaced with 'he-seems-to-be-nice' kind of consideration thought.

Little by little, she began to feel close not to the young man,  not to his look or status in life but to his qualities.

Without the young ma's knowledge, she has on her own developed feelings for him.

As she got immersed in this feelings, she realized she truely have been rejecting a person who's soul mate she is.

I do not know how long this feelings lasted witin her. But all I do know is that one of their next encounter after developing this liking was very different.

She was earger to let this young man know that she has for long time fallen in love with him?
No. Being in love with him.

She realized that this young man has been in love with her all this while too.

And despite appearance, look, and social status, the result was a three fold cord of union and they are happily married and enduring in their union till date.

Well, till date I said.
What you don't know is that their is a path love follows to crip into the human heart. It is through an automatic natural involuntary prinsciple.

Yes, through a natural prinsciple I said.

Do you know you can solve all problems in your relationship and family through this same automatic prisciple?

All you need is to become cconcious of it and voluntarily apply it, its already within you.

I will tell you about this prinsciple latter and how it works and how you can apply it to resolve all your relationship and family problems.

But if you are very curious to learn what this prinsciple is,  and how to apply in to solve your marital problems, you can as well contact me immidiatly, and I will not charge you much.

Can You Recognize Real Love?

How Do Love Songs Makes You Feel?

A well know musician sang;

"paint my love, you should paint my love. It is the picture of a thousand sunset, it's the freedom of a thousand doves, baby you should paint my love". Michael Lean To Rock.


That is breath taking isn't it?

Off course, this is just one among the thousands if not millions of love songs that just thinking about the lyrics could get you thinking, and your emotion runing wide even by a person who naturally is unloving, isn't it?

I do not believe that one word, phrase or clause is enough to defne real love.

Therefore, I rather use some illustrations to help you learn what it means to be in love.

Friday, 28 April 2017

Fallen In Love or Being In Love?

How Is Love In Love Song And Movies?

The point is, in love song and movies, love is often portrays as always going with sexual pleasures as if without it there is no love.

Whatever makes you fall in love is an obstacle  or a stumbling block. Once the obatacle faild, then one who has fallen must get up and move ahead, that is not real love.
When such sexual pleasures is not realized, the person who failed in love simply gets up from the fallen state and move ahead, so it is to all those who thinks that love is as it is in love song and movies.

Why Some Experience Heart Break and Failed Relationships

Sourse: webneel. For a relationship to last, its requires not just fallen but being in love with each other
My dear, do you see why movies and songs often ends up in heart break and some times leave the viewer unhappy?

The point is, the character whom you watched failed in love and since the love portrays in love song and movies is just that of eros  without the love of storge or Agape, (more on it latter) it's easy and simple to just get up as it were, and abandon the victim with nothing than a broken and crushed heart on the ground state.

Such is the result that comes from fallen in the crucible love.

NEXT: How about falling in love in real life? I prefer you be in love.
What is being in love? How can you be in love?
Learn how being in love can help you avoid failed relationship, marriage. and heart break.